November 27, 2012

Women Connect - SAHM of two

I'm linking up with Becky for her first ever Women Connect!  I am always looking for blogs out there written by mom's so we can share stories and advice with each other.  I have already met so many amazing bloggers that I feel like I can actually consider friends.  But as life gets busier, it's harder and harder to find time to get out there and "meet" new friends.  I don't just like mommy blogs though.  Some of my favorite blogs are written by ladies without kids.  So this link up is perfect because you can find blogs that you will love all on one page!  The instructions were easy. 

What do you do? You write. You write and you open up to us. Tell us who you are. Share a story with us. Tell us why you blog. Something that has been challenging for you in life? Something that has been a major blessing. Anything applies. The goal is that you take the time to actually write and the result would be that other women would find you and your blog and connect.

Who am I?  I am a stay at home mom to two of the most precious and adorable babies and a wife to the best husband and dad ever (excuse me while I am a little biased).  I am a Midwest girl who grew up on a farm and lives a pretty simple life.  You can usually find me in yoga pants and a tshirt, but I do love to get dressed up once in awhile too.  I have my degree in Education and plan on going back to teach some day.  I love sports.  I am not a good cook, but always looking for good, simple meals for my family.  I like to share my new recipes because I’m sure there are others out there that like meals that don’t include every expensive ingredient in the grocery store.  And don’t take an hour to prepare because I just don’t have that kind of time.  I am a reality TV junkie and not afraid to admit it.  I started this blog in August 2011 as a way of documenting everything about Kyla for our families to read.  Now I can't imagine life without this little space of mine.  I love having a way to journal my thoughts and connect with other bloggers.  And the best part is that my kids will have all of this to look back on some day.  Their own special baby books.

Married by best friend on July 15, 2006

So if you’re new here, I love to blog about my kids.  Mostly the good stuff, but sometimes it’s just nice to be able to sit down and write about the struggles.  Every day I try to figure out how to balance the kids, keeping the house clean, having dinner ready, running my Thirty-One business, keeping up with this blog and working out so I can lose this darn baby weight.  But this little blog is my way to sit down and unwind after a busy day.  I often get lost in my thoughts and then have to go back to reread and edit because it’s a bunch of complete randomness.  So don't mind the occasional list of bullet points!

I decided I would write about a combination of the things Becky listed.  Something that has been a blessing and a challenge all at the same time.  My 24/7 job.  Being a mom!  I absolutely love it, but I would be lying if I said it wasn't hard.  I always knew I wanted to have kids.  Luckily I found Tyler, who had the same passion for being a parent that I did.  We always thought we wanted 4 kids.  We knew we would be good parents and be able to provide a good home for them so why not?  But now, some days we think two is perfect.  And some days we want more.  Only time will tell I guess.

My silly 22 month old, Kyla Pearl, born January 9, 2011
One of the biggest things I'm struggling with right now with a 22 month old and a 3 month old is finding a good balance.  How do I give each of them the attention they deserve?  I have to say, I am very lucky because I have a VERY good baby.  He will hang out on the floor while I play with Kyla or lay in his crib and listen to his mobile while I feed her lunch.  But Kyla?  She does not like sharing my attention.  She wants me every second of every day and it's exhausting.  I lay in bed every night thinking about how I can do better tomorrow.  How can I make sure I am interacting with Kase enough, giving him enough tummy time, and not letting him lay by himself for too long because he absolutely would?  How do I keep Kyla entertained and make sure she's active and learning new things?  I guess the answer the best I can!

My chill little man, Kase Bradley, born August 24, 2012
Another thing I struggle with is comparing my kids to others.  It's so hard not to, especially as a blogger.  I will read about things other kids Kyla's age are doing and wonder why she's not doing it.  I know every kid is different.  I know Kyla is probably doing things that others don't do.  I know she is doing great even though I wish she talked more.  It's just hard not to compare.  It's one of the few downsides of blogging.

Lastly, and I guess this goes along with the other two, I worry.  And worry.  And worry some more.  My kids are my world so I am constantly worrying about how I can protect them from this big bad world we live in.  How I can make sure they are always safe.  How I will raise them to be good people.   The answer to this one, in my opinion, is to just live.  Although I will try, I cannot protect them from everything.  There will be bruises.  There will be meltdowns.  There will be failures.  And it's my job to make sure they learn from every single one.  But at the end of the day, I will always be their worried Mama.  Even when they are all grown up.

Being a mom is the most rewarding thing I could ever do.  I have to admit though, some days (not many) I think it would be nice to go back to work.  But I know if I actually did, I would hate it.  I am meant to be home with my kids.  I do not want anyone raising my kids, but me.  So even though I have bad days where I count down the minutes until my husband gets home so I can escape for a few minutes, I get sucked right back in with a big hug or slobbery kiss.  Tyler will tell me to go take a hot bath and I am so thankful for that little break, yet I sit there and keep playing with Kyla.  Or I say I'm going to escape to Target for awhile and end up taking her with me.  Being a mom is like a crazy roller coaster, but one that I waited in line for and never want to get off!  I am going to hold my arms up and enjoy every turn!  And probably let out some screams along the way! :)



  1. Great post!

    Be warned though---my brother and I were 15 months apart. My personality was just like Kyla's and my little brother was just like Kase. My mom always said she never heard him cry--he was super easy going and I demanded all her attention. He stayed sweet as pie until about age 3-4 years and then she said a switch flipped lol. I turned into the good/"easy" kid and my brother turned WILD....and t hings stayed that way forever more ;-)

  2. Love it! This parenting thing is least we're not alone!

  3. Parenting is definitely a hard job and I agree I wouldnt change a thing either!!I am such a worry wart and I am constantly comparing Breanna to other kids !

  4. wonderful post! Parenting is SO so tough! You are not alone in that! great most, I have found myself doing each of those things!

  5. Love it-
    and your little girl and those curls... OH. MY. WORD!!!!

  6. Hi! I'm a reader already but visiting too from Women Connect :)

    Chantal @ Scattered Seashells

  7. Your kids are adorable!

    I also watch a lot of reality TV.

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  8. I love this post! I feel as if I am really learning alot about you just by reading this post and it makes me want to read more! Your babies are adorable! And I love the Bucky shirt!My daughter loves Bucky!! Do you live in Wisconsin?

  9. Hi, I'm visiting from Women Connect!
    What adorable kids, I LOVE the red hair, my son is a redhead too. :) I feel the same way you do about being a SAHM. I love it but there are definitely times I wonder if working would be easier! Can't wait to read more of your blog.

  10. Visiting from Becky's blog. I feel like I could have written this post outside of the biography portion. Being a parent is such a hard job, but also so rewarding. I look forward to reading more!

  11. Rumor has it we get our worrying from a certain grandmother of ours ;)

  12. I love your family! Our daughters are the same EXACT age. I found you via the link up and I can't wait to continue reading.

  13. I too sometimes compare my daughter to others and it's hard. I think we are doing our best and you seem like a great mom!