July 25, 2012

35 weeks and my dilemma

Didn't feel like showing my face today :)

I almost didn't do a weekly post this week.  First of all because I feel like not a lot has changed.  And second because I feel like such a complainer.  I'm sorry if it comes off that way.  I am beyond grateful for everything I have and for this precious baby.  I'm thankful for my health.  I'm thankful for my amazing support system.  I truly am very lucky.

I decided to do the post anyway because I want to make sure I have all of this saved so I can look back on it some day.  And I feel like I need to put my honest feelings down, not make it all seem rosy.  It's hard.  I'm in pain.  I can't even unload the dishwasher anymore without a ton of pain.  I want this little boy to bake a little longer in my belly so I am doing everything I can to make it through these last few weeks.  But I would be lying if I said I was feeling great.  I pray that these last couple weeks go smoothly.

How far along? 35 weeks 

Total weight gain: 34 pounds

Sleep:  A little bit better this week I guess.

Best moment this week:  Getting things done around the house, got the car seat in the van, got Kyla's hospital gift packed (read about that here), got the baby's hospital stuff packed.  I have my list ready, but nothing packed yet.

Miss anything?  Not being so damn emotional!

Movement:   Yes, I expect it to settle down a little in the next couple of weeks as his space to move around and kick is slowly getting smaller.

Food cravings:  Sweets, sweets and more sweets!  I may have made cinnamon rolls at 9:00 last night.

Anything making you queasy or sick:  Nope

Labor signs:  No real contractions, just some Braxton Hicks.
Happy or Moody most of the time:  Stressed and emotional, but also very thankful.

Looking forward to: Making it to 36 weeks and taking it one day at a time.

A few other things have happened in the last couple weeks.  Stretch marks.  Woo hoo.  It was bound to happen with this belly.  And my belly button is pretty much out now.  It never popped out with Kyla.

 And onto another subject.  I'm very happy and excited for my husband, Tyler, as he accepted a new job with a new company.  It is an amazing opportunity for him.  I am so incredibly proud of him!

The only downside to the new job is that our new insurance does not cover my current doctors.  Hence the extra stress this week.  The timing is not great and I have a decision to make.

I can stick with my doctors (who I absolutely love) and deliver the baby in the same hospital where I had Kyla.  This will require us using Cobra (extended coverage of our current insurance plan at his current job).  The problem?  It's crazy expensive!  His last day is August 3rd so our regular plan will end that day and anything after that will be Cobra.


With his new job, our coverage can start August 9th and we just pay the regular premium.  The problem?  I have to find a new doctor and deliver at a different hospital.  But we save lots of money.

Tyler has left the decision up to me and I just don't know what to do.  Here are some of the things running through my head...
  • When you've done something before and "know" it, it's scary to do something new.
  • My experience having Kyla was so amazing, but I know every delivery can be different.
  • The clinic I currently go to, there are four doctors.  They have you meet all four and rotate who you see for your weekly checkups because any of the four can deliver your baby, depending on who is on call.  And yes, I love them all!  Seriously, I don't even care which one is on call because they are all so great.
  • If I go to a different doctor, the chances of him/her actually delivering the baby aren't great.  So then I'd get someone I'd never met before.
  • I know that all OB/GYN's are experienced in delivering babies and probably do a great job.
  • The hospital I had Kyla in had two beds, one for Tyler and one for myself.  The new hospital would just have one bed, although it's bigger so we'd have to share.  I know some people would like this.  But after just having a baby, being sleep deprived and in pain, breastfeeding, etc, I loved each of us having our own bed.
  • Obviously if I go into labor or need to go in for any reason between August 4th and August 9th, we will have no choice but to do Cobra.  That would make things easier (as far as me having to decide), but that's a little early for this baby to come.
  • I have my 36 week appointment made with my current doctors for next Thursday and then I have to go in and be checked every week.  So I need to make my decision and make these appointments.
  • We know exactly where to go and what to expect with the hospital we had Kyla.  The new one, I would have no clue.  Is it easy enough to find out?  Of course.  It's just another one of those things that runs through my crazy, hormonal mind.
  • I think Tyler thinks I'm making up excuses to NOT get the new doctor.  I'm really not trying to.  But I'm not going to lie, I want my same doctors.  I just don't want to pay the money for Cobra.  It makes me feel really guilty paying that much and I feel selfish.  So why can't I just call a new doctor and make an appointment?  I wish I knew!
I know some of these things may sound stupid or trivial.  I feel like my decision should be so obvious.  I was hoping if I put all this down in writing something would pop out at me and make my decision.  But I just don't know what to do.  I need to make my decision on my own (and soon), but any advice you guys have, please share.  And thanks for making it all the way through this long, drawn out post :)


  1. My opinion would be to get the new doctor. But based on my experiences I really feel like the doctor does nothing! I mean, yeah, they do something....but you spend 90% of your time with the nurses....who you don't know and get to choose ahead of time anyways. The doctor checks on you once or twice and catches the baby. Frankly each time I was to the point of pushing I didn't care if they pulled a random person off the s treet to catch her....i was just wanting the baby out fast and I wasn't concerned about making small talk with a doctor I knew vs. one I didn't.

    And the bed thing wouldn't bother me at all. With Raya Lee slept in a chair in the room (I didn't really care about his comfort---I had a bed so I was fine ;-) and with Brielle I sent Lee home to sleep at night! I enjoyed time to sleep alone and I sent Brielle to the nursery and they just brought her in to feed---so Lee wouldn't have been any help anyways haha.

    Anyways, everyone is different of course! But that's my opinion for what it's worth lol

    1. Oh, and Tyler is probably done negotiating terms, but just in case---when Lee took his new job just a few weeks before Brielle was born, we negotiated that he wouldn't make the old job pay him for unused vacation days, in exchange for them paying for our cobra for the interim period.

    2. Thanks for your thoughts Shawna! You brought up some things I hadn't really thought of. I had an amazing nurse throughout my whole labor with Kyla so hopefully I'll get lucky again!

      I called this afternoon and made my 37 week appointment with a new doctor. Now I just need to get all my records sent over from my old clinic. I know I am stressing over this way more than I should. I should be happy we have insurance at all. Thanks again for your comments :)

    3. I had amazing nurses with both my girls---and really, they are who I remember, not the doctor! I loved my doctor, but I really didn't feel she was a part of the whole experience like the nurses were who were there the whole time. And I think I've decided that the type of people who become labor and delivery nurses are just great people in general haha. I've never met one I didn't like! I am glad you got an appt. set up and you will be fine--all that really matters is that someone is there to catch that baby and hand him to you! :-)

  2. That's a tough one but I kinda agree with shawna. The drs I see are never the new who actually deliver me, a midwife is the one with me and there are only four of them. But it is tough when your really comfortable with certain people and then having to change can be scary. Sorry I'm not more help. Good luck, it does suck you have to change so close to your due date

    1. Thanks, Joeylee! I decided to go ahead and schedule an appointment with a new doctor. I know every experience is going to be different so just because I had a great one with Kyla, this one could be totally different, even with the same doctors. I'm just over analyzing everything at this point :)

  3. I would also agree with Shawna...when Maddie came early I wasn't able to have my doctor and just ended up with the one that was on rotation that night, and I ended up loving her! She was great, and really, like Shawna said, only there for a couple of minutes :) Ben slept in a "chair" that turned into a bed when we had Brady, and when we had Maddie they rolled a cot in for him :)

    I would also ask your doctor to maybe make a recommendation of doctors they "know" at the hospital/clinic you'd have to choose, just so you might feel better about having a "direction" to head in, instead of feeling lost about starting over :) I'm sorry you have to have that happen so close to the end!! But congratulations to Tyler on a new job!!

    1. Thank you so much for your comments! I have asked around on Facebook and got some recommendations from friends so I made an appointment for my 37 week checkup. I know I am just worrying too much and everything will be fine. Darn hormones :)

  4. I changed at 28 weeks...we just moved to a completely new state, YIKES! And my delivery was perfect---I didn't even meet the doctor that delivered me (again a rotating doctor's office) and she did a fantastic job. But I understand what you are going through---talk about stress on a very pregnant lady. Good luck with your decision!


    1. Thanks, Julie! Wow, talk about stress...moving to a new state while pregnant! I know everything will work out and there are so many great doctors out there!

  5. I'll tell you what blogger friends, Amy is alot bigger in real life. These pictures are being nice to her. I went to JC Penney's with her today and the looks and double looks people gave her. And then one lady asked her "any day now" and Amy's reply was "I wish I have 5 weeks left". The look that lady gave her was like omg and then she didn't know what to say, so she said "oh boy". I swear some people have never seen a pregnant woman before. She is so all baby. I think he has his legs stretched straight out. Hang in there Amy!
    Love ya

  6. Amy, I tell you every week, but you look amazing - ALL belly! And it has grown in the last week. It looks to be sticking out further. I love it.

    I hope you get everything figured out!